I asked my women friends this question the other day about what things they hate about men and for some dating tips and I was surprised about the response. I assumed lack of money would be one issue women hate. Another issue I felt could be important would be a lack of listening skills. I expected that most women would find most men lack the ability to have a deep emotional connection. I also expected most women would like great sex.
To my surprise I found that most women hated wussy men. They used different words for this. They used words like clingy and needy and a mums boy. It seems most women do not want to be a mum to their man.
Why do men become very needy? I have been reflecting on this and I feel it comes back to how we related to our mums. Did the man feel totally loved by their mum? Just about any man and myself would say that that their mum did her best but she did not love them unconditionally. So the boy feels that he was not loved on some level when he was growing up.
So when the boy is grown up he has a need for love. He feels that his women can fulfill this need of love that he did not receive from his mum. He becomes needy around women. His happiness depends on a woman. He tries to please his women by gifts, flowers and expensive restaurants. He puts up with her flaking out on dates and her over critical behavior. He is NICE. He is far too NICE.
Women hate this!
Have you ever noticed that some very attractive women are not interested in nice man but are attracted to Bad Boys? Do you have attractive women friends that just want to be friends with you? Have you been told that you are nice but a woman just wants to be friends with you?
If so, I feel you could be wussy on some level. Another sign is a fear of rejection from women. If your happiness is dependent on your partner you will fear loosing her a lot. You need her to be happy so you are dependent on her.
I have observed that women are very sensitive to picking up on needy men. Perhaps it is the body language that a needy man uses. I feel that it is also an energy thing that women can feel. I feel women really want a challenge and not a wuss. They love a very confident, sexy man that knows he can attract any women with no effort
For myself to grow out of being a wuss, I had to learn to love the good, the not so good and myself. When I did this I felt a lot more self-love to myself. I became less needy around women and I found I attracted a much more feminine, sexy women as a result. I hope you enjoyed this dating tip for men.
