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1). Choice Theory You have listened to me for a year now talking about Choice Theory but I know I’ve never really explained what Choice Theory is. Choice Theory is actually an explanation of all human behavior developed by Dr. William Glasser. There are basically five components of this theory—the basic human needs, the quality world, the perceived worl... 2). Leadership & Teamwork Strong, positive teamwork is defined by a leader who has a vision and the ability to inspire his or her team to work toward the realization of that vision. The leader is not threatened in the least by the expertise and diversity of his or her team. Rather, a good team leader engages his or her teammates in a discussion about what qual... 3). How Compatible Are You And Your Partner? What are the things you argue about? Where are the disagreements? The small resentments? Where do you have to give in to get along? Do you argue over money? Are you fighting over sex? Do you have different ideas about how much time you should spend together and apart? Do you squabble over extended family and friends? Is one of you dar... 4). Alone, Who Are You? Relationships generally begin when both people are in the “Alone Stage,” although I am aware that often affairs begin when one or both partners are involved with someone else. It is my contention that relationships have a greater chance of success when both parties have spent some time alone and unconnected with a lover. What does a pe... 5). Top Ten List Of What To Do And What Not To Do In Relationships Most of us who have been intimately involved with someone beyond the infatuation stage know that relationships are like a rollercoaster ride. When things are good, they are very, very good. When things are bad, they are very, very bad. As a relationship coach, I have developed Top 10 Lists---one for men and one for women on 10 things to do and not ... 6). Deadly Relationship Habits How many of you have ever been involved with a significant other who wanted you to do something you didn’t want to do? I doubt that I’m the only one. By virtue of a significant other relationship, there will be times when our partners will want us to do things we don’t necessarily want to do and conversely, there will be times when we will want our... 7). Grief & Loss Have you ever lost someone close to you to death? We go through a grief process that was best described by Elizabeth Kublar-Ross in On Death and Dying. In it she talks about the five stages that people go through---denial and isolation; anger; bargaining; depression and finally acceptance. The dying, as well as those who love them, go through these... 8). You Can Improve Your Relationship It seems as if creating successful relationships with our significant others and parenting children are two of the most difficult jobs we face and yet we get no formal training in either. It’s as if people believe that we are born with an inherent ability to do these two things. Yet, look around us. In the US, the divorce rate is slightly over 50%!... 9). Stop Lying NOW Do you have a consistent problem with your child lying to you, even though he or she is normally a “good” child? Sometimes the lies are even about 10). 52 Free Things To Do With Your Partner On Date Night One of the things that works to keep relationships alive is spending quality time with each other. In this day of the information age, it is becoming increasingly difficult to carve out the necessary time to nurture our relationships. What with long work hours, helping kids with their homework, transporting them around to their extracurricular acti... 11). Stress Management Have you ever said the words, "This job/my life is so stressful!" Or something else along those lines? Most people believe that stress is s 12). Goal Setting & Attainment I am sure that many of you are deep into the drama and excitement of the holiday season. There is so much to be done and so much to think about and consider that many can hardly think of anything else. However, when the excitement is over, our attention typically turns the closing of one year and the beginning of a new one. This is a t... 13). Quality Schools Quality SchoolsAfter presenting these ideas at the NAREN (National At-Risk Education Network) in Wisconsin last week, I was asked to write an 14). Inside Out Empowerment When we are thinking of making changes in our lives, all too often we look externally. We have a perfect picture in our heads about what life should look like then we go about acting on life to give us whatever it is we think would be perfect. The only problem with this approach is that we are giving away our personal power. Whenever w... 15). Parenting---Roots And Wings I’m sure many of you have heard that old Hallmark card adage that goes something like this: Parents give their children two great gifts---one is roots, the other is wings. This is what I address in this article. As parents, we pray for our children’s safety, health and happiness. We do everything we know to help make these things happe... 16). Class Meetings This article describes the process of conducting class meetings with students in a school, however, there is great applicability for office meetings held with employees, and even family meetings as well. Class meetings should be held regularly and not simply be used for addressing problems, although problem solution is a valid use of c... 17). Diversity I know that diversity has been a big topic of conversation ever since the early 1990s when research supported the demographics that by the year 2000, 85% of the entering workforce would be female, African-American, Asian-American, Latino, or new immigrants. The fact that white males would be a minority entering the workplace was a wake up call for ... 18). Empowered Leadership It seems that every decade or so there is some new fad the runs through the business world in terms of supervision and in the world of diversity management, downsizing, outsourcing, generational work conflicts and the information age, things are even more complicated than ever before. No longer does a one size fits all leadership model... 19). How To Know If He/She Is The One It is my firm belief that if you are seeking a life partner, you need to be clear about what it is you are looking for—what is important to you. If you’ve had more than a few failed relationships, then that’s actually a good thing because it will help you narrow your focus. You probably will develop a list of what you don’t want and fr... 20). Teleclasses: Your New Innovative Way to Learn What the heck is a teleclass anyway? Teleclasses, also called teleconferences, are an innovative method for bringing information to you without you ne 21). How To Manage Your Holiday Stress Are you plagued by holiday stress year after year? Do you feel as if you are a victim in all of this? Do you believe that you are the ONLY one in your household who is contributing to the success of the holiday? Let me share with you some ideas for making the holidays manageable. I used to literally make myself nuts during holiday time... 22). Problem Solving With Reality Therapy Reality Therapy is a counseling method that was developed by Dr. William Glasser in 1965. However, it is so much more than a counseling technique. Reality Therapy is a problem solving method that works well with people who are experiencing problems they want help solving, as well as those who are having problems and appear to not want any assistanc... 23). My Son’s Deployment One of the most difficult struggles in life for a parent is the struggle that occurs when the parent is attempting to keep their child safe and the child is attempting to explore the world and find their place in it, often times not in the safest manner. A discussion of Inside Out cannot occur without me sharing some of my own personal... 24). Lose The Weight You Want Forever Why is losing weight so difficult? The answer is relatively simple for those of us who have added some extra weight—we need to eat less and exercise more. So, why do we continually find ourselves in the same place year after year with carrying around more weight than we want to? The problem is that there are many nonconscious issues th... 25). Change One thing in life is certain---change. Things never stay the same. If you are hoping for the status quo, then I’m afraid you will be disappointed. Jus 26). Top Ten Reasons To Hire A Personal Coach Have you considered hiring a personal coach? Jack Canfield, in The Success Principles says hiring a "personal coach is one of the best-kept secrets of the successful." 1. A coach can help you clarify your vision and goals. If you have a sense that what you are doing isn’t the thing you really want for your life but you don’t have a cle... 27). Getting What You Want In Parenting Have you ever noticed that everything is a battle with your child? If it is, then one of three things is happening. Your child, you or both are in a competitive need cycle. What is a competitive need cycle? As humans, we are all born with five basic needs that we are genetically programmed to attempt to meet. They are survival, love & ... 28). Time Management Time Management 29). Living The Dream --- Yours Or Theirs? I know people in my life who when asked how are things going, will reply, “I’m living the dream.” Can you say the same? If you could, what would it mean? As far back as Sigmund Freud, psychologists have been saying that there are two major areas in a person’s life---love and work. When you are “living the dream,” you will be able to sa... 30). True Happiness Most people look outside of themselves as the cause of their unhappiness or frustration. After all, wouldn’t life be practically perfect if the significant people in our lives would simply do things the way we want them to or do what we think is best for them? Actually, this is the kind of thinking that perpetuates the misery! I agree... 31). Ten Reasons To Implement Choice Theory In Your Organization What is Choice Theory (CT)? CT is a theory of the explanation of human behavior. CT has applicability to both a person’s personal and professional life. It teaches us about our five basic needs, how to meet those needs in a responsible way, and how to take personal responsibility for getting those needs met. I have assisted many compan... 32). Ten Critical De-Escalation Skills Being able to de-escalate one’s own and the anger of others is an important skill to have in business. Hopefully, this is not something the reader deals with on a regular basis but unfortunately most people in business encounter either their own anger or the anger of others more frequently than they would like. In order to be successf... 33). Managing The Pain Of Abusive Relationships How many times have you said, “I didn’t have a choice?” This is a phrase that is uttered by many to justify their behavior or complain about their life circumstances. Surely, we can continue to believe there are no choices, but it is my belief that kind of thinking is what greatly contributes to our frustration and limits the strength and amount of... 34). Starting Over How does one start over after the loss of a loved one? It is a monumental task that just feels overwhelming at times. Similar rebuilding occurs after the death, divorce or separation of a loved one. First comes the shock of the loss and an almost denial that is has happened, particularly if there was no warning. We have hopes and dream...